3.2.1. Group of Adults of Different Ages (19–50 Years)
According to participants of different ages from Sofia city, equality in the family depends on the culture of each person and is determined by the family and the model according to which each person’s social life is developed. It is argued that the woman should become more active socially and economically, but this does not negate her commitments within the family. “The woman now has more freedom and power, but this actually leads to greater responsibilities for her, which is advantageous to the man”. Participants claim that for the first time, there is now a registered child in Bulgaria with two mothers, i.e., “anyone can do whatever they want and have sex with whomever they want, no matter what gender they are”. No one can decide that there are only two genders, it is how one feels that is important. “The ‘third gender’ is a right of self-determination, but for a person over 18; children don’t have the maturity to do that. People have one life and have the right to live it how they want”. The “Third gender” relates to when there is a discrepancy between biological givenness and how a person feels socially. “The term “third gender” is very generalizing, because this condition has many different variations”. However, the group said this distinction should not be paraded in public, every individual has the right to choose, but the issue is that this is now fashionable and creates wrong social patterns.
According to the participants of the mixed-age group from Montana city, patriarchy is a bygone topic; the issue is to find an adjustment between two people. “Our generation (born in the 1980s) grew up in a more patriarchal family, but now there is a push towards more open living, and that is a problem”. It is argued that there are now more freedom and opportunities for choice and action, “now everything changes in a very short time, and everything becomes totally different in just a few years”. According to the group, today there should be no male and female work, and partners should be interchangeable and multifunctional, but on the other hand, everything is strictly individual and depends on the family itself. According to the group participants, gender is important, but there should be complementarity: “with two parents of the same gender, there are still two roles, one leads, the other follows”, “biological sex matters less and less for social gender, beyond breastfeeding”. It is argued that it is a personal choice how one feels about gender, and that everyone has the right to choose, though abroad people are not judged, while in Bulgaria there is a risk of being judged. “And here in Bulgaria children are raised by same-sex couples—mother and grandmother”. The opposite thesis is also developed, i.e., that it would be difficult to raise a child who does not recognize a man and a woman as parents. On the other hand, a boy raised primarily by a controlling mother will also face difficulties and will become a “neutered” male.
According to the respondents from the group in Plovdiv, “men are no longer men”, and this is the statement around which the group united, which in the discussion was “softened” by the fact that gender no longer matters, though the emphasis as regards expectations was that the man should still be a support in the family—physical and economic. Either way, in terms of gender equality, selfishness and poor distribution of household tasks were highlighted.
According to the group from Silistra, the current role stereotypes and relationships in the family now in Bulgaria are defined as chaotic and inconsistent. Children do not have a role model in the family, do not know boundaries and patience. It is said that the most significant problem today is aggression, “people separate en masse because they do not compromise. Everyone is angry at the world”, the claim being that children today rule the parents, and there is a role reversal.
According to the group in Blagoevgrad, men are burdened with certain expectations embedded in the traditional society, but the lack of opportunity to meet these expectations leads to huge disappointments in others in the family. “Women and men are not supposed to fit into traditional role stereotypes, but those who fail to live up to their voted rights and responsibilities are kicked out”. There is a sense of inequality in terms of duties and care towards the children, and the lack of meaningful communication provokes suppressed anger.
For the focus group participants from Pernik, the current role stereotypes and the relationships within the family in Bulgaria are inconsistent, fluid, and with a changed hierarchy. “There is equality in terms of income, even sometimes, women work much more than men, but unfortunately this is another prerequisite for scandals and problems with the partner”. The parents are not an authority for the children; unfortunately, the children imitate certain behaviors imposed either by social networks or by the television. The children need to be educated about their own boundaries from an early age, which is the aim of the family organization. The role of the parents is sometimes taken over by people they know or who are more authoritative among their peers, and so they show symptoms or enter the vicious circle of addiction.
3.2.2. Adolescent and Youth Group (16–18 Years)
The participants in the group of students from the city of Sofia argued that the economy is changing the male–female relations, with women progressing faster in terms of power and rights. It was argued that now “there is an interchangeability of roles, but the man and the woman have to be the same in the family”. The opinion of young people is that fashion influences the young, and they can become ‘backwards’ 2; a participant in the group said: “I am embarrassed to see ‘backwards’, they are like contagious, it’s a shame”.
According to the Montana students, the roles of men and women are reversing because women are more economically active and educated, which leads to changes in roles and power within the family. The man can become more involved in raising the children. It has been argued that, from a purely biologically perspective, there is no possibility of the sexes becoming equal, but socially they may converge. “You can have an indeterminate gender, more like gender-neutral”, everyone has the right to choose, and others should not judge them. The understanding is that it is not possible to determine one’s own gender before the age of 16; this can be possible after 18, when one has sufficient educational and social experience, “it has to be—gender (English)—male, female, and neutral, while sex (English) can be boy and girl”. Young people believe that social gender is a feeling (psycho-social perception) that is more important than biological givenness. (A contrary view was shared that this is propaganda that overcomes the traditional values). According to the group, women’s empowerment has led to changes such as “I can be a man from the waist down and have a feminine mindset; it can be the other way around. It’s all in the mind”. A group participant argued that a child raised by a same-sex couple would have a more liberated mindset, be able to understand difference more easily, and have a more liberated consciousness.
Students from Plovdiv considered that a remnant of the past is that, despite efforts to eliminate prejudices linked to gender, “it still influences because there are outdated notions of ‘male’ and ‘female’ left”. All appeared firmly against the polarization of male and female work and believed that free choice should come first.
Regarding gender, the students from Pazardzhik said they believe that women can now grasp their whole lives on their own, while in the past they relied on being married, on a man to take care of them, on being looked after. This angers men now, as they “want the woman to be dependent, which feeds the ego of men”. They like to have power on women, but women are powerful now, they have more rights. And it is very important that now women can say: “you’ve put up with this one enough”.